Real-Time Resilience

Your personal energy is your most valuable, yet variable, currency. Energy capacity is designed to fluctuate - yet we’re conditioned to go nonstop. We know that each day has differing energy demands; however, it is so easy to exhaust it all with the intention to ‘restore it later.’

When self-care is non-existent or too rigid, we can lose a sense of self and balance. It is exhausting to live in a constant state of GO, thereby creating chronic stress which can lead to burnout. 

As a health-conscious go-getter and burning out 4x, here is what I’ve learned:

  1. No bootstrapping can pull you out of burnout. 

  2. Low energy states are shamed in our society, so we’re rarely taught to honor them. 

  3. How you transition out of low energy states is as important (if not more so) than understanding how you got there. 

  4. It is a common cycle to blast from shutdown to full-tilt and then crash harder.

  5. The secondary crash can often create a shame cycle, overthinking and disconnection.  

 I moved states, shifted careers and changed relationships but didn’t break the boom-bust cycle until I realized it was my nervous system that needed rewiring for rhythm.

Rhythm is life, life is flow, flow is balance and balance is efficient. Finding ‘balance’ stems from a feeling of easeful communication across our nervous system, the communication highway that interprets signals from the environment and sends signals back out to our environment about who we are. The key to ride the highs and the lows of life, without getting stuck in a jolt of stuck survival energy or the deflation of shutting-down, is nervous system flexibility. How? Welcome to the practice of real-time resilience to reclaim your personal energy - reset in the moment, recharge throughout the day, and restore appropriately at the end of each day. 

Since stress is simply a demand on our energy – think about how many demands are there on your energy. For some, it is way too much and for others, not enough!  We experience life through our layers of energy: physical, emotional, mental, intellectual, and bliss layers. When we tend to all the layers of our energy, we authentically care for our whole self – burning bright instead of burning out.  

As you tend to your whole self, reflect on what nourishes your layers of energy and what depletes them.

7 Things Your Trainer Doesn’t Tell You About Exercise

ONE: EXERCISE IS STRESSFUL FOR YOUR BODY

For most people, this type of stress, positive stress, or eustress, is a good thing.

Stress accumulates in the nervous system and how we tend to it determines our mindbody resiliency. Mild stressors are necessary for you to experience and maintain physiological and neurophysiological strength (overall strength).

However, if your lifestyle is causing chronic stress at the cellular level, density and intensity training could, and probably will, compound the stress load on your human.

As a Real Human, lifestyle goes beyond how we eat, sleep, move, think, work and play. Lifestyle encompasses qualities of our relationships, inner dialogue/criticisms and work/life imbalances and how that lifts or loads our stress. This doesn’t mean if you’re stressed, you shouldn't be exercising. We’re saying AWARENESS of fluctuating stress levels and their origins is the first and most important step to making positive shifts towards feeling on point. 

Learning movement and exercise to support you where you are at in life is the foundation of functional movement. At the heart of Real Human Performance is an emphasis on overall well-being and achieving your fullest potential – to become more yourself!

TWO: THE FIRST GOAL OF EXERCISE IS TO ACHIEVE POSTURAL INTEGRITY

If holding basic postures with everyday gravity is challenging or even painful, adding load (weights) and repetitive movements will set you up for failure in the form of physical injury or even mental/emotional insult.

Instability or the lack of postural integrity is a cascade effect and insult to injury is long. We’re talking structural integrity of our skeletal system, our frame. The actual shape of our container is a representation of how we hold ourselves and think of ourselves in the world. The downstream effects of the structural integrity on the mental and emotional body are extensively studied - how we carry ourselves influences how we feel and informs the quality (or lack thereof) of thoughts.

Our container also informs breathing mechanics, digestion, nervous system regulation and structural/physical health. If you are feeling sluggish or dull, the first supportive action is to orient yourself. Notice where you are in space, sit up tall, position your feet upon the ground and align your container for your contents and creativity to take shape. 

As a Real Human, we want you to receive foundational support to feel at ease, to notice how your structure supports itself and to start taking up space in our world.

THREE: BREATHING IS THE MOST IMPORTANT MOVEMENT YOU DO IN LIFE

Breathing is the first and last thing we do in life and the repetitive movement that we do all day in between. You breathe about 20,000 reps per day.

Most of us breath shallow or even backwards. Emergency breath, or shallow, mouth-dominant breathing is helpful in high-stress, demanding situations like sprinting for your life. When used as the default breath pattern, mouth breathing repeats a catastrophic cycle of stress.

At a basic level, oxygen is our primary fuel source and when our ability to intake it is challenged or gunked-up, there is unnecessary harm for all systems. From an exercise standpoint, breathing inefficiently will result in a struggle to get results from exercise. Compromised breathing bypasses the potential and dysfunctional breathing even has detrimental effects keeping a human in a stress cycle.

As the most repeated and coordinated movement, when done properly, breathing alone can stimulate weight loss, prevent injury/fatigue, improve oxygenation of our heart, eliminate exercise induced asthma, filter and build blood (yes, build blood!).

At Real Human Performance, we focus on breathe work because we know it is critical for optimal health, performance and quality of life. Quality sourcing of breath has an immediate impact and sustained benefit on improved emotional, mental, cognitive and physical ease in life. 

FOUR: QUALITY SLEEP IS A REQUIREMENT TO RECOVER FROM TRAINING

If you aren’t getting quality rest you aren’t healing and if you aren’t healing you’re hurting. 

One of the best (and sometimes complex) self- inquiry is to identify your relationship with rest. When you think about rest, what is the first perception of resting? We are all programmed by our environment and many of us are have automatic thoughts or judgements of rest equating laziness. What is your belief system that you hold around rest and recovery? There are even sayings like, “I’ll sleep when I die.” In reality, deprioritizing sleep gets us ‘there’ faster. Part of balance in the circadian rhythm is balance of work and play: free movement and meeting demands.

We totally understand it can be challenging to get a full night’s rest in the world we live in.

Our approach is to prep for sleep, appreciate sleep, integrate sleep. Solid rest and recovery bring balance to our circadian rhythm and puts us in sync to heal mentally, emotionally, and physically.

FIVE: EATING INFLAMMATORY FOODS CREATES UNINTENTIONAL INJURIES

Foods out of our biological wheelhouse cause global inflammation. 

This means all the bodily systems pay the price for what we put in our mouth. For example, the effects of heavily processed (junk) foods range from joint pain to nervous system dysregulation, organ inflammation and toxin buildup.

When we experience nervous system dysregulation, the blood pressure may increase and when the blood pressure goes up, typically a prescription is written to lower the BP. Is then the blood pressure the problem or a symptom?

The nervous system is sending a signal that something is out of whack (aka dysregulated)! Following this example, the medicine, by design, blocks valuable signals from the body and as such, there are cited studies that show calcium channel blockers cause an increase in heart attacks.

Another challenge from the lack of nutrition, or overly abundant toxins intake is swelling of the organs. If the organs are swollen, the nerves and muscles and soft tissues are pinched and parched – they don’t receive proper nutrients, hydration, nutrition and electrical current. A clear example of the system working together is through something most people are familiar with: back pain. If you are in back pain, it's possibly a symptom of intestinal inflammation. When it is difficult to properly use our core to stabilize the container, the organs are stressed because they take priority and use all available resources for survival.

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SIX: MINDSET IS AN INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT ELEMENT OF EXERCISE

If you don’t want to be there, don’t enjoy the process, or the environment, you are wasting our time.

What you focus on you feed; what you resist persists. Not only are you wasting your time when you are subconsciously communicating to your body that this is a useless activity, you undervalue your time and self-worth.

It is very likely the body will respond by hindering your movement goals with a mentality that you don't like what you're doing. Put the picture of what goals you want to accomplish in your head and keep them there, especially during times of negative self-talk. Tapping into curiosity and growth mindset is a way to rewire your default mode.

We believe fully that what’s in the way, is the way. Build trust in yourself, trust your experience and trust that you are developing skills that meet the need in your life.

SEVEN: HYDRATION IS ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL AND INCREDIBLE.

If you want to train, proper WATER is crucial. Not sports drinks, coffee, or other neon colored artificially flavored substitutes.

Our humans are electrical and need 'charging' if you will. Proper hydration, breathing, and sunlight help charge your body for optimum cellular function. What does that mean?! You are approximately 60-70% water by weight and 98% of all cells are made of water.

We actually have sort of a jello-like substance, called intracellular gel or interstitial fluid. Every function of our body relies on the proper function of this gel. Its argued that the rhythm or flow of inner cellular gel health coincides with our human’s overall health. 

Drinking water is acknowledging yourself at the elemental level. If we disregard this vital hydration, we are subconsciously denying the essence of what we are made of.

There are many reasons for this, all of which revolve around the miracles of water. Keep it simple: drink clean 1/2 of your body weight in OZ of clean, re-mineralized water a day. For example, a 200lb person = 100oz of water a day. One way to re- mineralize is by adding back a pinch of Celtic sea salt. If you are stressed in any way, more water and quality breath are recommended to ease your live and help flush waste.

Dear Human:

Your human is a smart, interconnected, intuitive, global-operating system that is sending signals constantly – even as you digest this information. Sometimes we are confused by the messages we receive, sometimes the signals are too strong and we don’t want to feel them and sometimes we’ve become numb to them as a way of functioning ‘okay’ in the experience of our world.

We have fundamental guidelines to follow to thrive vs survive. These skills are often more foundational (read simple, not always easy) and are best implemented with a proper rhythm for your nervous system, based on your experiences. Awareness and intention of actions prime your journey. Coupled with a guide and a map, you can rewire your human potential for the most efficient and pleasant experience possible.

We hope this helps to sparks the inner fire to take you on a journey from yourself to become more yourself.

Make Good Use of Your Suffering

Dear Human:

Your human is a smart, interconnected, intuitive, global-operating system that is sending signals constantly – even as you digest this information. Sometimes we are confused by the messages we receive, sometimes the signals are too strong and we don’t want to feel them and sometimes we’ve become numb to them as a way of functioning ‘okay’ in the experience of our world.

We have fundamental guidelines to follow to thrive vs survive. These skills are often more foundational (read simple, not always easy) and are best implemented with a proper rhythm for your nervous system, based on your experiences. Awareness and intention of actions prime your journey. Coupled with a guide and a map, you can rewire your human potential for the most efficient and pleasant experience possible.

We hope this helps to sparks the inner fire to take you on a journey from yourself to become more yourself.

Self-care is self-love.

Greetings lovely human,

Self-care is self-love.  How’ve you been caring for yourself lately? Sometimes it’s extra easy and some days we need extra…but it’s rarely ever the same!

For me, it’s been extra…as in extra love required. My own personal practice has taken me to the depths of addressing old suffering stored in my energetic and physical bodies. After injuries from 22 years and 4 years ago, respectively, my left shoulder and left side neck are *finally* ready to be tended to in new ways. 

Flexible self-care is self-love.

Can you believe these particular body parts previously ’shouted', “NO!" to therapeutics like acupuncture, reiki and craniosacral therapy? You betcha, I visited PTs and chiropractors that wrenched on the left side (I say lovingly) but the subtler bodyworkers followed a quieter wisdom - sensing and respecting the boundary of "no, not yet.” 

Honestly, I’ve been feeling pretty well and since November, I’ve been listening to my body’s readiness to address the old stuff and integrate it. I’ve noticed how these old injuries were quite literally congesting my heart, inhibiting lymph waste flow, limiting vitality, and causing familiar but increasingly 'louder’ discomforts. “Why?” I wondered. “What’s shifting?" I inquired. "I’m ready.” I prayed. 🙏 

And then…a subtle shift quaked to unearth an even subtler whisper. Spoiler alert: it’s deep and uncomfortable AF. 

Thankfully, I believe:

  • We can do anything with the right supports. 

  • I trust in the wisdom that I hear/feel/sense when I get quiet and connected.

  • Qualities I dislike in others are disavowed parts of myself. 

  • Both clean pain and dirty pain exist in our world.

  • I trust that freedom is ALWAYS on the other side of clean pain. 

  • Self-care is designed to be flexible, somewhat structured and yet, fluctuate like the seasons. 

Recently self-love, er, self-care has included energy-centric movement like tai chi, thai yoga, craniosacral, acupuncture and other modalities that I’m readying to speak about publicly.  I feel immense gratitude for the seasons, the resources and for the other guides. 🙏

Regardless of personal journey, I believe we’ve taken birth to experience love - to see ourself, to see the other and to appreciate the equanimity that exists in the shadows. No bad parts! 

Holistic self-care is whole-self love. Please accept this personal invitation to love embodied in a whole new way 💗 Ready to create some heart-sourced ripples? Here is a little love from me to you: 5-minute Heart Centered Meditation 

Sent with an expanding heart 💗

Jen

BTW - I treasure our holistic community so just holler if your bodymind is ever interested in a referral to a trusted practitioner.

Pearls of Gratitude

Greetings in this New Year!  

Over the holidays, my family and I ate our share of the most delicious oysters - Kumamoto from the west coast and Chebooktook from the Canadian east coast.

You may or may not prefer oysters and yet, these small creatures have a remarkable nature.  Since Nature is a mirror for our own human nature, you know I’ve been reflecting on this.  

Mind if I share a bit of 'oyster nature’ so you can join-in on the incredible journey?

  • The oyster’s rock-like exterior shell is formed around an exposed and vulnerable egg. 

  • The tough shell is formed from calcium carbonate CaCO3 - a brilliant recipe comprised of carbon dioxide from air + water in the sea water.  

  • Despite no arms or legs, oysters are not stagnant and move in their own way to thrive in their environment.

  • Oysters are bi-valves which means they circulate air and water through their container to flush out grit, toxins and other yuks. 

  • When invaded by an outside force (commonly a gritty irritant or a worm), if they cannot flush it out with the usual way, they first contain it - they create a boundary!

  • Oysters contain the invader by creating a light shell around it called nacre (think of protein structure like an eggshell) 

  • Layers and layers of nacre creates a pearl! 

Although 1:10,000 oysters create a natural pearl, all pearls are formed through disruption and chaos.

The pearl’s beauty is formed as a result of insult or injury.

And guess what else…the pearl is formed from the same mineral material as the gnarly exterior shell. 

Does this persistent resilience move you too? 🥹

To me, scars and pearls are synonymous. A reminder that both grit+grace are important aspects of this beautiful and often messy journey of life. 

I invite you to reflect on the pearls of wisdom that you’ve beaded over the last year(s).  String the new story of persistent resilience.  And if you happen to be graced with pearl jewelry, maybe you wear it as a token of your inner grit layered with grace. 

Sending love and pearls of gratitude in this new year.

Jen

BTW - you still may or may not eat oysters but I wouldn’t feel complete without sharing that oysters are a superfood, lol.  Power-packed with vitamins, minerals and high-purine protein. An all-around amazing creature.  As are you.